Books

This post will explain outtakes I got from two books which I bought, like, 6 months ago but I managed to finish them just recently. I have a terrible memory so the outtakes will be so short, only about things that I managed to remember.

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TLDR, like they always say: Men need recognition, Women need attention.

A little background, I bought this book because I know I was terrible at any relationship with women. I don’t have any female good friends. I know I needed it so I started working at it. I bought this book with goals to manage a good relationship with a woman, generally. And to be honest, I feel that I make progress!

What impresses me the most about this book is how it so relatable. As a man, I found his explanation about some behavior of us (men) is so true, hence it makes me feel so normal (yeay!). Hmm, what I want to implement from this book is actually about my sensitive side. I’m a guy with ‘feels’ tendency. I take almost every feedback from others (gesture, speech, etc) as a personal attack to me. Like if a girl somehow feels uneasy around me, a man who never laugh at my joke, or my friends give a bored face to me. I always tend to make this stuffs personal: Oh, damn, I’m boring/unfunny/unimportant! And it drives me so crazy.
And what I learned from MFM,WFV is those situations always happen! You don’t have to take it personally. Maybe, you just met them in a bad situation. Everyone, man or woman, has his/her ups and downs. Maybe they feel uneasy because they have unfinished works when they meet you, etc, etc. Don’t overthink it so much. I’m working on this. Still feel personal about most of the stuff, but yeah, I think I make progress.

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A little background, I bought this book to learn stuff about money. I feel like in my college years, I didn’t do so good with my money. But turns out, this book is not focusing on how to manage your money etc, etc. It’s about managing your assets.

You should define how rich yourself by defining how well you manage your asset. (Kiyosaki actually explained a lot of things regarding debt, tax, etc).  An asset is something that gives you a periodic income. By this definition, I think a property is an asset but a gold is not. Property can give you a periodic income (which he refers as non-stop profit because you can always get profit without losing your asset) by renting it. Gold only gives you one-time profit, which is when you sell it. After that, you lose your gold and can’t get any more profit.

Hmm, I don’t know. I think what he’s trying to say is: get anything that can give you money without selling it. Hence, I think the best investment for him is things that can be rented (?) Which he emphasized in the property because people always need a place to live in.

 

I actually bought another book from Dale Carnegie about how to maintain networking/relation (I forgot the title, LOL), but I don’t get any ‘memorable’ lesson from it. Just don’t be an asshole. Treat other the way you want to be treated.

That’s all folks.

 

Iklan

Break

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Do you ever feel like a weirdo sometimes? Like, you don’t belong anywhere. I know millennials like me feel the same. Like we are unique. We are special. Nobody understands us.

Wait.

Sorry-sorry, that’s not what I want to talk about.

Back again, I want to share something that I consider really weird about myself. The concept of a holiday. In the bigger picture maybe, the concept of a break. I never know how to take a break properly. Which is not good. Because I can’t find anything that will recharge me well if I feel burned out.

To some, their perfect break is to lock themselves in a room and play games all day. To some others, their perfect break is to travel to a new place. Err… I don’t enjoy these two options. My perfect break is literally to just doing nothing. Scrolling 9Gag until I found the last image I saw before. Or catching up on a new episode of my favorite TV series. Both of which will make me feel unproductive. I don’t get anything from doing it. At least, playing games and traveling give yourself a new experience (virtual or real, LOL).

So yeah, I don’t know why but I have this urge to still become productive in my break. I don’t know. Maybe I’m in an industry which what you learn today, somehow become obsolete tomorrow. The new things come, when you haven’t learned about the not-so-new thing.

And I feel jealous. Jealous to all my friends that post a new pic from their holiday. Doing things that totally not related to their job. I always ask myself,

“Doesn’t these guys feel afraid that they won’t be able to catch up to their work when they’re going back?”

Hmm.

I don’t know. Maybe this uneasy feeling I have is because I don’t take my college years seriously. Maybe if I studied harder back then, I would not feel worried because everything I learned in college will help me catch up easily.

Okay, you know what, I spent too many times writing this post. I should get back to feel worried about myself.

Bye.

 

The Boy who Knocks #1

Everybody is laughing now. My punchline is killing them. I’m talking about my relation with my parents, with a little bit of exagerration. And they are laughing. I think it’s true what a comic usually say: it’s the hard truth that make they laugh. They laugh because they agree.

It’s just an usual conversation everytime I met people. I’m the joker. I’m the one who always fill the conversation with jokes and comedies. I dont know. I feel like it’s my responsibility to make people laugh. Or not. I think I agree with that therapist from F.R.I.E.N.D.S : when people laugh because of me, I feel loved.

It’s 9.00 pm. Everybody  is looking at their watch now. Why the hell everybody is using watch, except me. They are not laughing anymore. They just smile with a little bit proof of grinning. I think they are bored now.
“Well, it’s getting late. Let’s go home”, Finn says in silence between my talk. Everybody agrees.

Huh.
To be honest, I still want to hangout a little longer. But they all looks exhausted. And they all are looking me now.
“Yeah, let’s go”

Being an F guy from MBTI, I can’t help but wonder, did I do/say something wrong? Honestly, I always wonder if I talk too much. I wonder whether I give others turn to talk about what they want. But, hey, I know I do. I always ask them with questions. And I often take a break. That’s their opportunity. I do stop talking sometimes, just to give them a moment to fill the conversation with something different. But they dont. Oh, did I wait too short?
Err.
I hate my mind. He, and yeah I personify my mind as a guy — specifically a boy, always manage to question everything to me. Do I? Did I? Am I? Anything. Questioning my self. He always do this. I want to get away from him. But He manages to find me everytime after I left him.

Damn it.
I hate this. This is exactly why I like to talk. I always need a distraction. Because everytime my mind is not on something, the boy knocks and ask me something. And maybe, that’s why I have this urge to always fill the silence between my conversation. It’s not that I’m nosy or something (wait, am I? Ah hell no, damn my mind!). It’s not that I’m not comfortable being silent with you. I just need a distraction.

A reason to keep telling the boy, “I’m sorry I’m busy now, can’t play with you right now”